The A-Z of Friendship

A Friend ...

A ccepts you as you are.
B elieves in you.
C alls you just to say "hi."
D oesn't give up on you.
E nvisions the whole of you (even the unfinished parts).
F orgives your mistakes.
G ives unconditionally.
H elps you.
I nvites you over.
J ust likes being with you.
K eeps you close at heart.
L oves you for who you are.
M akes a difference in your life.
N ever judges you.
O ffers support.
P icks you up.
Q uiets your fears.
R aises your spirits.
S ays nice things about you.
T ells you the truth when you need to hear it.
U nderstands you.
V alues you.
W alks beside you.
X -plains things you don't understand.
Y ells when you won't listen.
Z aps you back to reality.

LIFE

Life is not a matter of milestones but moments

Life is about trusting your feelings and taking chances, losing and finding happiness, so appreciate the memories, learn from the past, and realise people change

 Life is about laughing and living in good times and bad

One day you will ask me which is more important, you or my life? And I will say my life and you will walk away not knowing that you are my life

Life is too short, grudges are a waste of perfect happiness, laugh when you can, apologize when you should, and let go of what you can’t change

Yesterday is history, today is a gift, and tomorrow is a mystery, live each day as though it were your last, with the things that are truly going to last

Life isn’t about finding yourself, Life is about creating yourself

Do what makes you happy, be with who makes you smile, laugh as much as you breathe, and love as long as you live   

 Dream as if you’ll live forever, live as if you will die tomorrow

Life is a dance you learn as you go, sometimes you lead, sometimes you follow, My life is better left to chance, I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance

THAT’S LIFE

But always remember Life goes on!!!!

Waiting

 I’m not waiting for a perfect handsome prince charming but a guy that’s willing to take a chance, a guy that loves me for who I am, a guy that loves me, a guy that has respect for me, a guy that will protect me, comfort me, love me, a guy that is all mine, a guy that is proud to call me his girlfriend, a guy that is himself, a guy with a cute smile, a guy that’s cute, guy that is fun to be around,  a guy that fills my life with happiness and laughter, a guy that’s genuine, a guy that all my friends see as perfect for me, a guy that calls me beautiful.

I watch movies and read magazines seeing all these amazing guys that are seen as prince charming but you know what they’re out of your league you, I mean there never going to fall for a girl like us, were considered a nobody in their famous life, where just another obsessed fan.  I know that, that’s why I don’t want, what I know for a fact I’m never going to get. I know their limits and that you can’t dream to big, because the bigger your dream, the more unlikely it is to get. 

Guy these days are so influenced by peer pressure that they act like someone their not, they learn to act a certain way, talk a certain way, dress a certain way, and treat others a certain way, they can act like real jerks and forget what it means to be yourself, to not follow the path others create and instead lead your own path in a new direction. They change who they are just to fit in and to be cool instead of being true to themselves and their real friends don’t pressure you to change but just love you the exact way you are. 

Everyone has a different name for a reason, that’s how we identify everyone’s individuality and uniqueness that friends and family love about each other.

I want a guy that’s the same around his family and friends, as he is around me HIMSELF!! I’m just waiting for a guy that’s just normal, who doesn’t care about being a stereotype, who is just himself at all times. I want a guy that can be my best friend, and no matter what; and through any storm we will walk out the other side with battle scars but still just as in love holding hands. I’m just waiting for MY OWN Prince Charming.

MY OWN FAIRYTALE MY OWN HAPPILY EVER AFTER

You know what my favourite movies are; Cinderella Story, Another Cinderella Story, Romeo and Juliet, P.S I love you, The Last Song, Letters to Juliet and The Perfect Man. I watch these movies over and over their not like other movies that I usually only watch once or twice. I watch these movies all the time and even though I know what’s going to happen I sit there with my eyes glued to the screen. When I watch these movies everything else around me blurs out. I watch these movies believing in fairytales it gives me hope for true love. It makes me blind to the fact that they say true love doesn’t exist but I’m like a little kid I like to believe in the Disney fairytales.

I hope that like in Cinderella a guy will come chasing after me

like belle that it’s not always about looks but the heart and personality

like rapunzel he will rescue me from this world, where they say true love doesn’t exist

Like sleeping beauty he will wakeand turn my dreams into reality

like snow white he will comfort and protect me when others hurt me

like Ariel he will push the boundaries to be together

like jasmine he will take me on a magical journey of love

Inside I’m just a little kid with a big heart, believing in what others see as just fairytales. I’m just a princess in waiting.

Every time I watch them I’m engaged under the spell more and more. Each time I’m more determined to find a fairytale ending. Each time I’m more determined to find my own prince charming, each time I’m more determined to find true love, each time I go to bed playing scenarios in my head of my own life as a fairytaleand happily ever after.

Fairytales aren’t just about finding a handsome prince charming, there about fulfilling your dreams, and about standing up for what you believe in!

DEFINITION OF A BEST FRIEND

This blog is just for Bridget

Friends- How do you define a true friend? How do you know if they will always be by your side? How do you know they won’t stab you in the back?

I guess in our mind we have certain qualities we look for in a friend. Happiness, laughter, compassion, honesty, and always there no matter what. It’s a special bond their like family. A friend gives hope when life is low, a friend is a place when you have nowhere else to go, a friend is honest, a friend is true, and that my friends is all of you.

A best friend is one that can look at you and notice that underneath the smile they know something’s wrong. They don’t give up to cheer you  up and do anything to make that smile not just a cover up, for the feelings bottled up inside. A friend is one who believes in you when you have ceased to believe in yourself they see what you don’t notice, they give you the courage to achieve, believe and succeed.

You can eat and drink together, talk and laugh together, enjoy life together, but you are only true friends when you also cried together.  A true friend laughs at your stories even when they’re not funny, sympathizes with your troubles even when they’re not so bad and thinks just like you.

When it hurts to look back, and you’re scared to look ahead look beside you, and your best friend will be there cause that what friends are for, to never leave your side. It’s not so much about having heaps and heaps of friends they say “Never take a person for granted. Hold every person close to your heart, because you might wake up one day and realise that you’ve lost a diamond while you were too busy collecting stones. It’s better to have a few really close friends that mean the world to you than a group that you’re not that close with. Your closest friends know you for who you are not because you constantly tell them but because they pay attention to you because they really do care. 

Around your friends you’re comfortable to be yourself you say stupid pointless stories, run into poles, spill milk on each other, go away to concerts together, go shopping together, have mathletes meetings. Friends tell each other absolutely everything because sometimes it’s hard to tell family or someone else so we tell our friends because we know they will understand and support us.

Around your friends you don’t have to worry what you look like or what you say or feel because there your friends for a reason that reason being they love you for who you are.They don’t judge you on the way you look, they don’t talk about you behind your back they simply just love how you are and the personality you possess.

You trust your friends you know they won’t tell others your secrets and keep their promises, they’re there when times are tough, the help you when you don’t know what to do, they give the best advice and understand you.

My friends are like older sisters to me and they mean the world, all the tears of happiness, sadness and laughter we’ve shared that’s what makes us the best of friends only making our friendship stronger. Each time something happens good or bad we learn more about each other.

But what happens after school when we all have different plans and all go in different directions to we keep in touch or do  we move on and make new friends always remembering the memories shared. I don’t want to lose my best friends after school, we’ve been through so much to just move on. I want to keep contact wether via facebook, text, calling, blogs or even making the effort to drive or travel to wherever they are just to see them in person and share those  special moments you cant create over the net or phone. I want to go on holidays every year with them. I want them to know that even though we don’t see each other everyday like we use to they still had a huge impact on my life and still mean the world to me because i wouldn’t be were i am if it wasn’t for them.

I want them to know that they can call me at 4am in the morning if the ever need s someone to talk to, that they can stay at my place if they have nowhere to go, and that in an emergency I would rush to be by their side, and that if something did happen I would be there at the drop of a hat even if I had other commitments, I’d be at your bedside if you were sick because friendship comes first and if you ever needed them they would return the favour of being there for you. I want our kids to be friends I want to meet your boyfriends so I know he’s the perfect guy for you and isn’t going to hurt you, I want to share all our special life moments together. I want infinite memories of our friendship.

Because True friends are hard to find, harder to leave and, impossible to forget. At first we weren’t friends it took time for us to see that we could be the best of friends, it’s going to be hard to part but we will never forget each other.
I still dont know the exact definition of a best friend but to me my friends are the definition, they are my everything.

Realising Those That Have Been There All Along

 You have  friends some new, and some old, and some that havent left your side, the ones you have grown up around. They are the ones that mean the most, they are the ones you have experienced most of your life with at school. You see these friends pretty much everyday but, sometimes you see them but you dont really notice them. They are there always just friends. But somtimes amidst all the drama of life things change, and suddenly everything in your life is simply perfect, you dont know why but you dont question your happiness. Your life is now filled with smiles and laughter.

Just then when your life is at its peak you notice things you never really noticed before. You notice when things are out of place, and your friends dont seem themselves.This is the moment you realise the effect that searching for happiness in life has; not noticing important things about friends and family that you failed to see before. This is the moment your life becomes a fairytale. 

You always think about wether you would go out with one of your friends but; you  never if you will, and who? "The say a relationship is friendship on fire" that is the case most times. You dont simply  have a relationship with someone you bearly know and doesnt know you.You dont go out with people just because of their appearance, you go out becasue you are friends, because you share the same interests, and together you have realised what a good friend each other are.The fact that they actually mean alot to you, the fact that they make you happy no matter what, the fact that you enjoy their company, and that no matter what you will always be friends. Right in the middle of your ordinary life everything turns amazing, everything good seems to be happening

.To top it all off you notice one of your friends that you never saw as anything more than a friend, but now you see that you do have feeling. That all your closests friends that know you best, keep telling you how cute you would  be together and that he would be crazy not to like you. Then your family says how much they like him too. Thats when you get the hint that everyone notices you's and thinks the exact same, thats when you realise exactly what everyone else sees and you feel the same way. But at that moment of realisation you are to afraid to tell them; you question yourself;do they want to be more than friends? do they even like me? do they feel the way i do? You are scared to confront them of your feelings afraid they dont feel the same.

Instead you hide those feelings and what everyone else feels petrified of ruining your friendship from that awkward situation were you built up the courage to tell them how you feel. You know just recently they liked someone else but do they still like them? Have they moved on? You dont want to lose a friend so you sit back as a spectator unaware of how the feel. But if you dont tell them they will go on with their life, and fall in love with somebody else,  never getting the chance to tell him how you feel before its to late.You never get the chance to hear what he feels.In the meantime you cotinue living like nothing has changed but every time you see him; every times he waves and says hello, every time he smiles you cant help but smile too, and you cant help but feel the way you do.

To afraid to tell him,you send a close friend that you know you can trust to find out, so you dont make a fool of yourself. Thats when times get stressful you wait, and think all night about what there going to say. You continuously play it over in your mind before you go to sleeping tossing between the two outcomes. Tonight I will do that yet again, but this time ill hope for the best and wish on stars and dream on the future.

Make it Happen

Imagine the limits that you can reach if you give yourself permission to live now instead of waiting for the days youve dreamt about

For now its ok  and moan that nothing is happening in life and just lay back and think you were dealt a crap deal. If you get out of your pity boat you will see that life is interesting Not everyone can have a simply perfect life some of us have to make it happen

Its too easy to get wrapped up in the hardships that we miss out on the fun, the experimenting, and life!

Get out there and LIVE! Don’t be a waste of a beautiful specimen.

There is NO excuse or reason for you to be surrounded by four boring walls.Get out and make memories!

Laugh till your tummy hurts!
Learn from your mistakes!
Party till morning!
Fill your heart with friends!
Search till you find yourself…then love yourself!
S.M.I.L.E at everyone – you look pretty and you could meet your prince everything-you’ve-been-wanting like that!
Love the special ones in your life!

Stop waiting for stuff and life to happen…Make it happen! The world is yours.